While there are lots of publications written and recorded on youtube to describe what a psychopath is and how it can be detected and defended, this publication exclusively focuses on hints that can be obtained from facebook, and yes—I’m so sorry admitting—on female psychopaths. I’m straight male and therefore mostly communicate with females. Some of the rules, however, are applicable for men too, for instance the first criterion.
1. Night owl
Psychopaths are more likely active at night while early birds less likely show psychopathic behavior. Several theories exist to explain this phenomenon. The most plausible ascribe psychopathic behavior to descendants of criminals that did their jobs at night. I’m not sure about that I would rather prefer my own theory according to which psychopaths share some brain defects. These defects consist in uncoupling hypothalamic and fore-brain neurons and by the same token sensing of the circadian rhythm is uncoupled.
You can easily spot a night owl on facebook just trace the time when most of its activity takes place. Of course you have to take into account time zones and travel schedules.
You would be surprised how many … But please be careful in interpreting these results. (1) Yes many facebook users are narcissistic. That’s why they are here in the first place. But. No (2) not all of them are psychopaths sometimes it is just a question of planning the work round the clock, so you definitely need more criteria.
As psychopaths lack the ability to feel the slowly growing mutual affection in a developing love affair they press for rapid progress in a developing relationship. You will get surprised by rude symbolism and unveiled allusions. Don’t make the mistake to take this for passionate love. On the contrary such rude advancements rather signal frigidity.
Women psychopaths prefer in this case to post videos that expose barely clad women and make equivocal comments. Often it is referred to the holy grail of female psychopaths “Fifty Shades of Grey”.
If living with a psychopath volatility is ubiquitous. You get so used to it you wouldn’t notice it any more. On facebook it is rather difficult to uncover. You can get some hints though from their wasteful spending of money. Those women will lure you into dubious financing schemes, ask you for financial support for some ostensibly seriously ill children or maltreated animals, or—when bold enough—picture themselves in front of a gambling machine.
It is well known that psychopaths lack empathy. Also psychopaths know that, so you would rarely find a picture or comment that expresses lack of empathy. On the contrary, as psychopaths try to hide their deficiency they would show picture that demonstrate the opposite, for instance feeding animals or caring for elderly and sick people.
At least the careful observer will find occasions when a psychopath so much concerned with herself simply forgets to offer condolences when a close friend suffers a loss.
For psychopath difficult to hide is their inflated opinion of themselves. This has nothing to do with posting many photos of herself. Almost all women do that. It is a woman’s role to show her beauty to attract men. Nothing wrong about that. As a matter of fact I enjoy it and probably most men do the same. Moreover if you are in some artistic professions it is your job to show your talent in order to find better contracts.
If not the pictures themselves, the comments are often quite revealing. A good picture speaks for itself. It doesn’t need a comment like “The particular gorgeous me” or even some derogatory comments like “You will never match that elegance.”
Did you know that psychopaths have a different taste? They actually are bad at discriminating different flavors. Moreover they prefer food that has a bitter taste. If you meet a psychopath personally you may probably smell her distinct perfume, but this seems impossible on facebook. If you invite her for dinner and she praises your cooking although you added much of a bitter substance, that could be a clue to her psychopathy. But be carefully in interpreting such an experiment. If she praises your food she simply may be polite, or even worse if she doesn’t smell the bitter substance, she could sincerely be in love with you as people in love like psychopaths exhibit impaired taste and smell.
If all this is impossible on facebook, how would you use this criterion on facebook anyway. Simply trace her food pictures. Many facebook users notoriously post pictures of their food. Most likely those who immensely enjoy food are not psychopathic. If you know the local dishes you may even check her preferences in taste. Is it bitter? Admittedly this is rather a daunting task.
Promiscuity goes hand in hand with lack of empathy and impudicity. It is typical of psychopathy, but don’t be a fool, you rarely will find a women so stupid to expose her sexual history on facebook. As it is in our cultures unfavorable to have too many sexual partners that will be rather obscured and you have to rely on indirect hints.
Such hints include male friends who were close friends sometimes, commenting on every post, but all of a sudden became abandoned. If all this is accompanied by a change from euphoria to drama on his facebook page, you can be almost sure this sex affair ended with dumping him. All you have to do now is connecting the dots and counting the number and you have quite reliable data on promiscuity.
D’entre nous, the facebook spying algorithm works the same way.
8. Language patterns
We enter the section of more complex criteria now. Although complex and demanding they are no less reliable. Language patterns are difficult to detect during a casual conversation. Actually you have to record the conversation and to analyze the transcript. It is much easier with facebook, though. Simply count the quotes.
If she prefers quotes that emphasize love and deep feelings and reacts rather moved to such a quote by you, she is less likely a psychopath. If however her quotes are shallow and arrogant, she is more likely a psychopath. But please be careful, with this criterion as well. Shy and intimidated people may show the same reactions, but only for a limited time. Therefore if you can changer her behavior while providing confidence she is a good person.
Due to her inflated self confidence, she feels entitled to criticize you. Even if she barely knows you, her critique can become so bold and intimidating that it is hard to swallow. Here is good news for all victims, you don’t have to bear it. Block her.
10. Feeling of guilt
The most hideous character trait of psychopaths that unfortunately you can even experience on facebook is when she tries to induce the feeling of guilt. This is so hideous because you are not aware of any wrongdoing and every attempt to clarify the situation will make it worse. Be assured a normal person wouldn’t accuse you of some misbehavior in the first place. A normal person like you would double check if the impression of a misbehavior is just a misunderstanding, and a normal person would welcome any attempt to clarify a possible misunderstanding.
Accusations may sound absolutely absurd. For instance, after only a short exchange of messages a girl accused me of stalking her because I made a reference to one of her published pictures. Wait what? It is not unusual that psychopaths publish pictures to accuse others for looking and commenting, but she was merely an inexperienced amateur. In an other case, she accused me of being obtrusive, after I made clear that I won’t make any obtrusive remarks. Unfortunately that is rather typical. Psychopaths scan your messages for just one thing, they look for a vulnerable spot to make you feel guilty, so if you declare that you intentionally avoid something, then that would be exactly the point where she would assume your vulnerability.
Thus again there is only one solution to the problem. Immediately block her.
Finally, I’d like to mention that there are some more criteria to spot a psychopath which are difficult to employ on facebook. For instance it is difficult to verify a pathological lair if you don’t know her whereabouts. Also it is difficult to observe a resistance to contagious yawning. Still I hope this post was of some use.
One time, I would appreciate a facebook tool to tag all the psychopaths, but as I said in my introduction there would have been so many, probably.